...Think Bridal Registry

Remember those gifts your parents were given on their wedding day 25 years ago that are taking up all the space in your family storage? Or that stash of trays and greeting card frames that Aunty Dupe doesn’t need but has to keep because it was given to her by “special cousin’s cousin” or granny?

Suffice it to say that those are things of the past. Modern brides are taking charge and registering their dream gifts in gift shops or better still, online.

A bridal registry is “a service provided by a website or retail store to assist engaged couples in the communication of gift preferences to wedding guests. Selecting items from store stock, the couple lists desired items and files this list with the chosen merchant. The list is then made available to wedding guests, either by the couple's family or the merchant” - Wikipedia.

There has been some outcry against adopting a bridal registry, especially here in Nigeria, because many people believe it’s the thought that counts, right? Maybe not.  Below are some of the reasons why it may be a good reason to support one. It:

1.       Saves time and effort for the giver - gifts can be purchased without the worry

2.       Ensures that the recipient receives something he/she wants especially if you’re not close acquaintances

3.       Allows for easy exchange of gifts as  registries are usually more accommodating

4.       Ensures the recipient appreciates your gift that much more as it cuts down on the chances of multiples of the same gift

5.       Offers the giver plenty of choices in all price ranges

6.       May allow younger recipients to have gifts they would not be able to afford otherwise.

Couples, while it is your big day, it is important to consider your guests too while putting together your registry. Follow this guide to basic registry etiquette to avoid committing any ugly offenses:

Think About Accessibility

No matter how much you adore that multi-tasking Microwave – if any such thing exists - if its location is not accessible to your guest, then don’t put it on your list. And remember that some guests will always be more comfortable shopping for wedding gifts in person or at stores they’re familiar with, so endeavor to register your gifts at familiar stores. It is a good idea to register for at least a few conventional items at a recognizable store.

Do Not Hold Back

There's no "correct" number of stores to register with. Base your list on your own individual needs and circumstances – within reason, of course. Your unique interests or geographic location may prompt you to register at as many as four or five stores.

Keep All Budgets in Mind

Because your guests will have a wide range of budgets, it is important to register for items at a variety of price points. Look for decorative pieces, like picture frames and vases, or accent items, like throw pillows and bath rugs—all fun but relatively inexpensive items available at most stores.

Do Not Push Your Registries

Never insist that guests shop exclusively from your gift registries. Some people will prefer to surprise you with a carefully chosen, slightly more personal gift, or maybe even a handmade item. More traditional guests (often older family members) may also have their own ideas about what makes an appropriate wedding present. Remember, the gift giver is ultimately in charge of what you receive, while your job is simply to write a kind thank-you note.

Be Careful Where You Mention It

Mentioning the registry on your wedding invitations is definitely considered inappropriate. The best way to get the word out about your registry in a timely manner is to post the information on your personal wedding web page. While including registry information on your wedding invite is a serious NO NO, it is alright to mention it on bridal shower invitations. You may also mention it to family and friends by word of mouth.

Do Not Ask for “No Gifts” or “Cash Only”

Although you may think not asking for gifts is a thoughtful gesture, many guests actually want to give you a gift. It is a way for them to share in your celebration and congratulate you on your special day, and it is not fair to take this option away from them. And definitely do not insist on ‘cash only’; it is considered very vulgar.

Even though the idea of a gift registry has not fully caught on in Nigeria, it is a wonderful idea that should be considered as it does save everyone a lot of money and energy.